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Gay Marriage / Marijuana Legalization

For those who haven't heard, Washington State just passed both laws -gay marriage and legalized marijuana. 
The fact that gay marriage and marijuana were legalized on the same day makes perfect biblical sense because Leviticus 20:13 says:  "If a man lies with another man they should be stoned."
Sent in by Carlos .

Peter Jalowy

Peter Jalowy (age 30 b. 18 June 1982) died on the night of 29/30 April 2013. He is missed by his life partner Marco, his mother, his sisters and his many friends. Peter's Funeral was on May 10 in Thüringen, where he grew up, with his immediate family. There is a memorial event next Saturday in Volkspark Friedrichshain (facebook here).

Peter was handsome, he was intelligent - he always read my discarded New Scientists - and he was one of my best friends. He worked briefly for Discodamaged. About eight weeks ago was the last time I saw him with Marco and he was in the best mood I had ever seen. But it was a false dawn.

Peter died of drink and such like. He had one too many that night. He was always a troubled man - all his life. He did not mean to die.

There are other young men like Peter. Perhaps his death could do some good if they were helped. Discodamaged and friends will be giving to a charity that does that. Search for suchtberatung berlin or just go to http://www.drogen-info-berlin.de/.

Peter is resting in peace.

Jack, my doppelganger, also knew Peter and mourns him,
George dd

Alcohol, drugs and unsafe sex

HIV weekly unsurprisingly report that men who use alcohol or drugs when they are having sex with other men who they do not know, are more likely to have unprotected sex - without a condom. Jack always try only to have unprotected sex with men that he knows and trusts. He's not always successful. But, as they say, "If at first you don't succeed, try, try, tray again."
Click the headline for the full short report.

Hep-C Update

An article in Brit medical journal the Lancet tells us that "In Europe, an estimated 9 million people are infected [with Hep-C], but only half have been diagnosed". It continues that only France and Germany have screening programmes and a European wide approach is needed. Read the article here.

Hep-C (HCV) is serious. A friend of mine died from it two months ago. He was not injecting before he got HCV.

Mindpirates Art Porn Week June 12 – 15

Art Porn Week (er three days in their week) is in June at Mindpirates, Schlesische Str. 38, Berlin-Kreuzberg. It's not in the Gay Berlin calendar. Click the headline for more info and links.

Drugs In Berlin

The latest ExBerliner - the Berlin in English mag - is the "Drugs Issue". They have several features on drugs matters from heroin addiction to Vigil to the dealers story to the African child sex slave. It's in the shops now and you don't get it all on the interent. Worth a read.

Holiday season. Where to go

Our colleagues in London found this handy map of cock sizes in Europe. It's derived from 'targetmap.com Penis Size Worldwide', which the Berlin team reported in back in March 2011. And serendipitously London reader Amer shows us the Huffington Post report in Brit rag the Independent: 'According to a [not very] new study...'.

So we put together a table comparing the results. What does that prove? The French got shorter and Icelanders got longer. Or are they all liars?

Country	Indy Oct 2012	Target Map Mar 2011
Australia	13.2	13.3
Canada	14.0	13.9
China	10.9	10.9
Colombia	17.0	17.0
Congo	18.0	17.9
Ecuador	17.8	17.8
France	13.5	16.0
Germany	14.5	14.5
Ghana	17.3	17.3
Greece	14.7	14.7
Iceland	16.5	14.6
India	10.2	10.2
Ireland	12.7	12.8
Italy	15.7	15.7
New Zealand	14.0	14.0
North Korea	9.7	9.7
Romania	12.7	12.7
Russia	13.2	13.2
South Africa	15.2	15.3
South Korea	9.7	9.7
Spain	14.0	13.9
Sweden	15.0	14.8
Thailand	10.2	10.2
UK	14.0	14.0
USA	13.0	12.9

Videos: Global Drug Survey say "Just say know"

Off out? Wondering about what you're taking, how to take it, whether to take it? GlobalDrugSurvey are doing some great videos - what's in my coke, harm reduction etc. Basically, two guys that look like they're form the Open University chatting illegal drugs.  

Video one: how hard it is to get doing a dose of G... Bascially, it'll end in tears.

Video two: What's in my cocaine?! 

Attack in Theodor-Heuss-Platz

Police report that a 77 year old was attacked in Theodor-Heuss-Platz on Saturday afternoon. Witnesses described that at 16:00 the man ran out of a public toilet chased by a 27 year old man, who the police later arrested. The younger man pushed the older into the street so a car had to swerve. Police opined that the attack was motivated through homophobia. The victim was treated for multiple face injuries on the spot.

The toilet is one of the last 'cottages' in Berlin. Bastian Finke of the gay anti-violence-Project Maneo in Berlin said that there had been more and more violence against gays there in recent years and sometimes whole groups of gays are thrown out in order to clean up the area. From Siegessäule.

There must be scope for opening a gay bar with a huge toilet here.

Bottomdar?

Well we heard of gaydar but bottomdar? Canadian scientists Konstantin O. Tskhay and Nicholas O. Rule tell us that Canadians can tell thether you're a top or bottom by just looking at your face.

They also say "In intercourse between men, one of the partners typically assumes the role of an insertive partner (top) while the other assumes a receptive role (bottom)." Maybe their research is flawed... More such drivel in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour.

Daniel Sirone 18 Jan 1960 - March 13 2013

Daniel Sirone died probably in the night of 12/13 March. His boyfriend of eight beautiful years Michel Rheilac discovered him lying peacefully dead on his bed. Yesterday Daniel was cremated. Daniel had suffered from a heart condition for several years and recently had started on Hep-C therapy which made him ill over the last two months and, combined with a weak heart and HIV, is very probably cause of death.

Michel writes
The cremation today was a draining but a release for me. Friends stayed all day with me until late last night, reminiscing about Daniel. His brother was here, who looks a lot like him and took with him a lot of Daniel's clothes which made both of us happy. I am giving away his stuff to friends. He never wanted to grow to be an old man. He wanted to keep centering his life around pleasure. He went away very peacefully without pain or fear, never waking up from his sleep. The softest possible way to die. I am happy for him. His life ended exactly how he wanted it to end.

It is for us now to keep him close to our hearts and use his memory as a driving force to keep being alive, sharing , loving, being crazy. Because in the end that is what living is all about while it lasts.

The thing I am the happiest about is that we succeeded in transforming what started out as a purely wild sex driven fuck buddy type relationship into a deep loving meaningful bond between us , without ever relinquishing the sexual freedom, openness, exploration and madness. Our partnership was free, unconventional , loving. He was one of the most honest and sincere man ever. He was a joy to live with on a daily basis. He will be with me all my life.

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Daniel lived in Paris but in the last few years was a very frequent visitor to Berlin which he and Michel fell in love with. He hugely enjoyed it and gave joy to others especially in the famous darkrooms. His favourite parties were lab.oratory, Fickstutenmarkt and Biohazardmen. He usually stayed in Discodamaged lodgings where he was always welcome due to his wonderful cooking, housekeeping skills, company and fine carpentry. He was a carpenter, specialising in kitchens and made some invaluable household objects which will now be treasured for ever. He and Michel were such fans of Berlin that they were planning to move here and they had bought a flat in Neukölln together. Sadly Daniel has not lived to see the fruition of his dream. His memory will live on here.george, curator, dildo museum

Daniel Sirone leaves behind a daughter Laura Sirone and boyfriend Michel and many friends.

To life and Daniel
When I can no longer climb stairs without holding the banister,
When I fear falling over because I can not get up again,
When I am in great pain with only death to ease it,
When I can not dance,
Please release me in a final blaze of bliss.

Before then let me let me give and take pleasure in equal measure.

George Keeling March 2013

March 31 Photo sent by george, curator, dildo museum. Goes with comment below.

 

Bad Apple

Gay pick up site Gayromeo have surrendered to the mighty Apple. Apple have banned their "XXX" app profile builder which lets you show your cock and bum. Whatever next? Explicit emails and Grindr messages censored? And how can theu enforce it? We know about face recognition software. Has some pervert invented cock and bum recognition software too? Read the terrible German truth on Siegessäule.de.

Successful HIV treatment as Effective as Condoms

Now UK experts say that successful treatment is "as effective as consistent condom use" in reducing HIV transmission. Read more here.

HIV and life expectancy - good news

"There’s been a lot of good news about life expectancy for people with HIV and on treatment in the last few years. The latest UK research shows that prognosis is now near normal for those with a CD4 cell count above 350 – the current threshold for starting HIV treatment." HIV Weekly tell us, click the headline for tmore details

No blow jobs in Austria

An HIV-positive man faces court in Austria (17th state in Germany) because somebody gave him a blow job. He didn't even come:-( Read more in German on queer.de.

Compulsory HIV tests. NOT.

There's been a media frenzy over the last week due to Welt.de reporting that HIV tests will become compulsory for queers, homeless and foreigners in Sachsen-Anhalt. Don't panic! Queer.de remind us that they reported on this in July and the proposal is that police and some other officials may require a test if they have good reason to believe that somebody has HIV and they are putting health workers or others at risk. That's bad enough.

HIV self test kits

Ever been to one of those HIV quick test clinics? They are appearing all over the place. They say the test only takes five minutes, which is true, but they forget to mention that after filling in forms and queuing 1) for the test and 2) for the results it really takes about two hours. Yawn.

Since a few months ago, HIV self test kits can be bought over the counter in the USA so we decided to check if they are available on the internet. They are. And they look like the ones they use at the clinics and they seem to work. Click the headline for what we found out.

US: Take your pills on schedule

Aidsmap reports a study of socially deprived US African Americans. They have HIV, most were on treatment and about half of them are gay. The study reports that "only 51% met the criteria for non-infectiousness set by the Swiss Statement of January 2008." This was thought to be due to irregular use of the medicines. Read more here.

Safer sex without condoms?

If two men want to have sex and one is HIV- and the other HIV+ but with undetectable viral load, can they have safer sex without a condom? The debate has been open for a few years now and opinion, both medical and on the street, has slowly been coming to the answer Yes. Since October 1 the British government has offered free treatment for HIV to everybody in the UK, regardless of citizenship or immigration status. (More here.) The reason for their generosity is to reduce the numbers of new HIV infections. That is almost an official Yes to the question. Two days ago queer.de published a question and answer article, which is the clearest explanation of the known facts that I have seen. The answer is Yes - with some qualifications. Click the headline for our edited translation of their article.

Paris Hilton a two-faced b*tch shock. Ignorant too shock.

Who'd have thought.  According to a site called Radar when Paris Hilton got in a cab the driver recorded the conversation to prove she's been in his cab. However, Hilton then then came out with an anti-gay tirade when Grindr is mentioned  - starts well but then degenerates like us apparently!

On hearing what Grindr's for she says “Eww. Eww! Gay guys are the horniest people in the world. They’re disgusting. Dude, most of them probably have AIDS ... I would be so scared if I was a gay guy. You’ll like, die of AIDS.”

Her PR says this was taken out of context and was actually a safer sex message she's like totally always trying to get out there.  She like totally loves The Gays as they're like her biggest fans.

Full story including audio here...
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